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Even when you’re crazy about someone, it can often be hard to know if he or she is “right” for you. How do you know you won’t feel differently in a year? Ten years? A lifetime? Deciding if you can commit to someone is a deeply personal determination, and everyone has different criteria. As in any verdict, you have to start by assessing the evidence. With that in mind, YourTango has come up with 15 signs that you’re dating a soul mate. You don’t have to check off all of these points to be sure about someone—but if you can say yes to several, you’ve found someone very special. 1. You tell him things you don’t tell anyone else. We don’t mean blurting something out after you’ve had too much merlot, but the desire to tell him intimate details about your life means you trust him—a major component of successful long-term love. 2. You let her see you in moments of weakness. It’s easy to be happy with someone when you’re feeling good about life. But what about when you’re not doing so well? Do you want to see her when you’ve been denied a raise, or your cat died or you had a plain old bad day? She should be a comfort during tough times, not a burden. 3. You respect him. You don’t want to change the essence of who he is. There may be stuff that irritates you in everyday life—he insists on wearing his favorites, holey T-shirt, he eats sugar cereal for dinner, he still watches Saturday morning cartoons—but you like him, plain and simple. 4. You want him to meet your parents. You feel proud of him and you want to show him off—as opposed to feeling like you have to make excuses for him. 5. You can imagine a future together. You don’t have to practice writing your first name with his last name, but do you periodically let your mind wander to picture a life together? Is it amazing? 6. You’re not afraid to disagree with him. You know that even if you fight, he’ll listen to you and won’t brush you off. He takes you seriously, even when he thinks you’re wrong. 7. You want to work out your major differences. If you do have crucial differences that will impact your future together—different opinions about religion, money or something else—you want to work them out with him, and you believe you can come to a conclusion that will satisfy both of you. 8. You laugh together. Laughter is one of life’s simplest pleasures—you should definitely be able to crack each other up. 9. You’re incredibly, utterly, surprisingly attracted to her. Physical chemistry is an undeniably important ingredient in a healthy relationship. And if she’s not a classic beauty or your usual “type”? Even more reason to think she’s the one. 10. It’s OK to be quiet around her. You don’t feel like you have to fill the space between you with chatter or other interaction. Instead, you feel an easy comfort. 11. You feel like yourself around him. You don’t feel like you have to edit your thoughts; you’re not self-conscious or anxious. 12. You need him the right amount. You long for him—but not too much. Some neediness is good but too much breeds discontent. 13. You don’t feel too jealous. You’re comfortable with him going out with his friends—even female friends. You let each other have your own lives and hobbies. 14. You feel like she makes you a better person. She makes you feel smart, funny, attractive, creative—like the best version of yourself. You feel like she brings out and complements the best parts of you. 15. She just gets you. Sometimes it’s that easy. You feel like she understands some essential part of you that you can’t explain or articulate. It’s a warm, comfortable feeling—and one you should have with the person you marry.
Girl, we both know you look damn good, but when it comes to date night, there are some makeup and hair habits that men just don’t understand. We asked dating blogger to weigh in on the beauty looks men don’t get and can’t stand. The upside? You get to spend less time primping. Sticky Lip Gloss We Say: If it’s sticky on your lips, it’ll be sticky on his, too. Keep it simple and layer Chapstick over a lip stain for kissably soft color. Raccoon Eyes We Say: There are men who can appreciate a smoky eye, but ease off the charcoal shadow on the first date. For full, dark lashes, reach for the eyelash curler and two coats of a stay-put, waterproof—and sweatproof—mascara. Crazy Nails We Say: Hey, they’re your nails—paint them whatever color you’d like, and keep ‘em long or short…but keep them neat! Just like we recoil when we imagine a dude’s ragged, gross fingernails touching us, scary-long and messy talons can scare a fella. Makeup Overload We Say: When in doubt, put down the makeup bag! Less really is more, and you want him to see you for the natural beauty you are, not impress him with how well you can wield a blush brush. Pick your best feature and make it stand out, and tone down the rest. Overdone Hair
He Says: “Guys love lip gloss, but they hate the lip gloss aftertaste when a woman overdoes it. After kissing you, I should be thinking about your lips, not wondering what is suddenly on mine.”
He Says: “Smoky eyes can be very alluring. Super-dark, overdone, ‘let’s rob a bank’ eyes, though, are not. I want to be able to notice how beautiful a woman’s eyes are, not see shapes in the shadows around them.”
He Says: “Nails are one of the first things that I notice on a date. Gorgeous, manicured, and colored nails speak volumes about how a woman views herself. Ultra-long curvy nails painted with psychedelic color or adorned with glitter and costume jewelry do the same thing—but not in a good way. Nails should complement appearance, not upstage or detract from it. They should also not impede everyday activities like cutting food, driving, or opening doors.”
He Says: “Too much of anything is usually a bad thing, and this is definitely true of makeup. Subtle is always better, and honestly, I don’t ever want to wonder what a woman really looks like underneath her makeup. If I can see powder on her face or wonder what colors she’s using on her lips, cheeks, and around her eyes, then she’s probably wearing a tad too much of something.”
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